Quit chasing; embrace the process instead

focus on what you want and learn to build your confidence.

Learning to identify the cycle of behavior you constantly use in relationships will allow you to understand whether you’re making apparent mistakes in your approach. ~ Bruce Bryans

Your confidence is your most potent weapon

develop your self–confidence to the point where you won’t settle for less than you know you deserve.

When you develop your self–confidence, you will learn to walk away from dating situations that feature any amount of disrespect. ~ Bruce Bryans

Confidence has to be consistent; do not appear confident and then tolerate disrespect. ~ Bruce Bryans

Do not allow men to play games with your heart, body, time, or attention. Identify your boundaries and stick to them. Know your values and principles and place them before everything else.

Studies consistently show a correlation between confidence and how attractive someone is perceived to be by others.

Quit playing games of the heart

If you try to pretend you’re not interested, perhaps playing hard to get, you’re wasting your time and his. Men respect women who don’t have time for manipulation and games.

Game playing is for women who lack confidence and self–respect. ~ Bruce Bryans

If you learn to respect yourself and put yourself first, you won’t have to play hard to get because you’ll attract a higher quality man who will be direct with how he feels.

High–quality men aren’t interested in games, and they’re not afraid of strong, independent women. Self–confidence and self–respect are irresistible to a high–quality man.

These types of men have high standards for the women they want in their lives, but as a result, they have more to give to you. As a result, you’ll be able to develop a stronger, more fulfilling relationship.

Never be too available; always try to retain a little mystery instead

Never be too accessible or too available for any man. If you’re not posing a challenge, men will tire and move on to a woman who is. However, that doesn’t mean you should play games; you do this simply by valuing yourself and your time.

Always be a little unavailable by making time for yourself and never negotiating with it. ~ Bruce Bryans

Never text first; if you’re the one doing the texting and calling all the time, you’ll never know whether he genuinely likes you or he’s just answering you.

Also, always call rather than text — calling is far classier than texting, and it gets to the heart of the moment, developing solid connections first and foremost.

A challenging, desirable woman presents a man with a healthy problem that’s worth solving. ~ Bruce Bryans

The past should stay in the past

Never speak negatively of an ex in your life as this shows the present guy that you’re someone who either isn’t over the ex, or you’re likely to speak ill of them, too.

it doesn’t earn you any amount of pity either. Instead, the guy might assume that you’re not over your ex, or you have too much baggage for him to be able to deal with.

Forget your past relationships; they have no say in your life right now. ~ Bruce Bryans

Dating should be embraced with flexibility

Early dating is a little crazy, so you need to go with the flow to a certain degree. ~ Bruce Bryans

Do not allow the dating game to make you hard or critical; be open and embrace the craziness of dating.

Just because one guy treated you poorly doesn’t mean the next one will — focus on yourself. ~ Bruce Bryans

Past dating experiences do not define you or your dating future.

No real man has “commitment problems”

A real man isn’t scared of commitment, so if he tells you that he isn’t ready, don’t wait around until he is. Walk away. ~ Bruce Bryans

Judge every guy based on their qualities and whether they want the same things as you. ~ Bruce Bryans

If a man tells you he has a commitment problem, nine times out of ten, it simply means that he has a problem committing to you. ~ Bruce Bryans

Always stay true to yourself

Do not change your interests and passions for a man; they are part of who you are. ~ Bruce Bryans

A high–quality man will never ask you to give up anything about yourself or your life; he will see your values and interests as an extension of you and part of what makes you unique.

Love yourself first of all

if you don’t love yourself and accept yourself as you are, nobody else will either.

Many women fall into the trap of “sameness.” This means wearing the same clothes all the time, having their hair in the same style constantly, never changing their makeup style.

Find your inner vixen by changing a few things and noticing how it makes you feel. ~ Bruce Bryans

Finding your “inner vixen” doesn’t mean becoming overly sexual; it simply means learning to dress and present yourself in a way that allows you to feel like the sexual being you are

to love yourself, love your body, and love feel confident in who you are, both inside and outside. This means looking at your perceived faults in the mirror and learning to love them and not be ashamed.

Never talk about the things you don’t like about yourself; if you do that, you’re making them more natural to you, and you’re also pointing them out to your partner! This could change his perception of you over time.

Embrace your femininity and do not change yourself for any man. Dress for yourself in a way that makes you feel sexy and free!

You deserve unconditional love

If a guy mistreats you or leaves you, he should no longer exist to you. Never go back; if you do, the cycle is simply going to continue in the same way.

Focus on yourself to the point where a man who doesn’t treat you with the same respect doesn’t seem attractive to you. ~ Bruce Bryans

Never settle for second best; never put up with behavior that makes you feel uncomfortable or unhappy. Never tread on eggshells around a man, and do not lose one moment of sleep over a man who doesn’t treat you in the way which you deserve.

Conclusion

Learning to love yourself, respect who you are and what you stand for will allow you to meet a high–quality man who sees you in the same way.

A real man, a high–quality man, won’t make these excuses. Never sit and wait for a man to be ready; if he’s not prepared when you meet him, and if he doesn’t show signs of wanting a solid commitment with you after a short while of dating, he’s wasting your time, and you need to be strong enough to realize this and walk away.

Try this

• Write a list of your positive qualities and focus on strengthening your belief in them
• Think back over your dating past and try and identify the type of men you repeatedly go for
• Identify a positive mantra you can use whenever your confidence in yourself dwindles